Having a relationship should make you feel good about yourself and your partner most of the time. Humans are a social species that need a network of relationships to live and thrive. The same way we need food and shelter, we are also wired to connect. Strong, good relationships are the best way to keep and improve your physical and mental well-being all through your life.
So, what does a strong, good relationship look like, then? Read on for seven traits of happy relationships, as well as expert advice on how to improve your own romantic relationship.
Characteristics or signs of strong, good relationship:
1. Good relationship bring the best in you.
They make you feel comfortable, confident, and happy when they’re around you, so you like the way you look and act when they’re around.
Relationships can not only make us feel good, but they can also make us better people, too. It’s up to each person to take the steps they need to improve, but the best relationships encourage and support each other as they work toward their own goals. Having a strong sense of self is the first step to having strong, healthy relationships with other people.
2. Argue sometimes.
All couples argue, but not all couples know how to argue in a healthy way. Not fighting isn’t the point. It’s about learning how to argue well. Successful couples have the skills to deal with difficult situations.
Your partner doesn’t have to lose when you fight with them. There should be no name-calling, insults, or eye rolls when you argue. If you can’t do that, you’re not ready for a discussion yet. Take a break, whether it’s for 20 minutes or a few days. When you’re both ready, come back and talk about what you want and need from your partner calmly. Everyone should learn how to fight respectfully if they want to keep their relationships happy.
3. You keep your own identity.
Were there people and hobbies that made your heart sing before you found a partner? Yes, there were. In fact, your partner may have fallen in love with you because they liked how you looked at life, how you treated your friends, and your interesting hobbies. But when you start a new relationship, some of that “me” time has to become “we” time.
The question is: How can you be in a relationship with someone else without giving up who you are? In a relationship, it’s important to keep up with your own hobbies and interests. This helps you have a stronger sense of who you are, which makes you more capable of intimacy, love, and passion in a relationship.
4. You help each other out when you can.
They go through many natural changes over time. In a relationship, one of the people may lose a parent or a job. This can change how they show up in it. Recognizing the different seasons of life and being kind is important to moving forward together, stronger.
You don’t always have to be “the strong one” or “the one who takes care of things.” Ideally, you help each other and give each other time and space to be vulnerable.
5. Pay attention to each other.
This one is more difficult to say than to do, but it’s not impossible. A lot of times, it’s not just about waiting for your turn to speak, or giving advice without asking for it. Holding space for each other and truly listening are important parts of strong, good relationships.
Summarize what your partner has just told you and then ask if it’s true to what they’ve said. In this case, “It sounds like you’re angry because you think I’m not doing my share of the housework.” Is that what I’m hearing?
6. Help each other reach your goals.
A good partner doesn’t just see you as who you are now, but also as who you could be and who you want to be. Those who care about your well-being will help you reach your goals.
Some people don’t want to get into a relationship because they don’t want to change their plans or put off their dreams. In the best relationships, the fire inside of you will grow stronger and stronger, allowing you to reach new heights that you couldn’t have reached alone.
Strong, good relationships will push you and make you better because they see something in you that you can’t see for yourself. This is why they will push you. Proverb: If you want to go fast, you should go alone. If you want to go far, you should go with someone.
7. Together, you grow.
Relationships don’t stay the same all the time. They will need to change as the people in them grow and change, as well. What do you want from your partner right now? How can you help your partner?
The person you marry won’t be the same person in 5 or 8 years, and neither will you. You will, too. Each person needs to be actively involved in the relationship for it to last, but it takes a lot of time, energy, and love to keep it going. Check in with each other at least once a month or once a year to make sure that you’re both on the same page and that the relationship is working for you.This lets you change your direction before contempt and resentment push you apart in ways that can’t be repaired.
Strong, good relationship are made, not found. It’s all about working hard to build a great relationship, and then working hard to keep it that way, so that it stays that way.